So it’s November 12th which means it’s a real ones birthday. Yes that’s right. It’s my birthday you guys. I decided to put out a post on this day because I only turn this age once and although you will hear people say “it’s only a birthday,” that doesn’t stop me from letting people celebrate me. I admit to being meh about turning older. This past weekend I went to the nutcracker market and celebrated a little earlier there with ones that are close to my heart. I went to the bathroom and there was a lady waiting in line and she decided to have a conversation with me. She asked me how old I was and when I tell people that usually tell me that I don’t look a day over 22 which is cool cause you know in reality home girl is pushing thirty. She tells me that today is her birthday and for some reason I wanted to hug her so I did and then she proceeds to tell me some life lessons as she got older. We ended up talking for ten minutes and that felt much longer but when I got home that day it made me really think about life and how much I’ve grown.
Although, I have not graduated or started my career. I have managed to not get pregnant, not that I don’t want children, I just want them when I know I can afford them. That sounds bad but it’s logical. I used to focus on the negative side of getting older and not having a, b, c, or d but now it’s more of me getting closer to my goals and just enjoying life. I am where I need to be right now and that’s all that I can do. I lost more weight this year older, I progressed immensely in the gym, my confidence and self love is something that I hold dear to my heart and I am just so happy. For the first time in my entire life 27 to 28 was the year I was real with myself. It’s crazy to think how much I was lying to myself and I am just so glad that I decided to take control of my life and give it all I have.
So I wanted to share with you all things that I have learned over the years. 28 years to be exact. Despite it not being a big birthday, it still marks another year of life, and of lessons learned, and that’s what this post is all about so here goes nothing.
-Buy a planner or a dry erase board with a calendar on it. I am not talking about just buying either or for it to be there and look pretty. I found that me being organized and writing down when bills were due, assignments, or etc.. helped me so much better than just trying to remember stuff.
-Say YES! more. When something comes up that would bring you out of your comfort zone, say “yes”! Try to push yourself, whether you do it in big leaps or tiny steps. It’s always fun to try out new things, and worse case scenario, you never do it again!
-Say NO! more. On the flip side, don’t be scared to say “no” if you don’t want to be a part of a situation. I’m always hesitant to say “no” because I didn’t want anyone to get upset. Over this past year, though, I’ve come to realize that the people who get mad at me for politely declining are probably not people I want to hang out with.
-Only hold a grudge if it’s well worth it. This one is super important. You always hear people say to let things go, but I’m telling you this instead: pick and choose what makes you mad. Grudges are just as harmful to you, so you really have to think about whether or not a situation is worth the permanent anger.
-Eat 80% clean. I know what you’re thinking: why is this on the list? I understand where you’re coming from, but food really does affect your mood, mental, and physical health. I am not saying I follow this alllllll the time but I don’t let cheat days turn into cheat months anymore. By eating 80% clean, you’re giving your body the chance to be healthy, while also allowing you the chance to say yes to some milkshakes every once in a while
-READ MORE! This is something that I can’t stress enough. Whether you read manga, listen to audio books, or cry your heart out to a good ol Harry Potter book, reading is a great way to get smarter and be entertained at the same time. You’ll learn new words, you’ll read books that possibly challenge your beliefs and way of thinking, and you’ll find characters that you just end up loving.
-You are who you are. Don’t try and change that. This one seems cliche, but I feel like it’s genuinely an important one. Yes, you’re going to change as you grow older, but at the end of the day, who you are at your core is who you’re going to be forever. So own it, and don’t live your life trying to be someone else. If you do, you’ll end up feeling fake, and it trust me: it’s not worth it.
-What you put in this world is what you put out. I mean this in every way possible: what you eat, what you read, what you think, what you listen to…all of it can and will affect the way you act.
-You are not right all the time. It’s just like Hannah Montana said: “Everybody makes mistakes.” Don’t beat yourself up too much over a circumstance where you’re wrong. It happens to all of us in one way or another.
-Be a good friend. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “it’s a two way street,” and this is basically the same sentiment. I learned in high school that people are so quick to blame a crumbling relationship on the other person when, in reality, having a good friend is a direct response of being a good friend. If you lost a friendship this year and you feel you did nothing wrong then chances are you didn’t. It may hurt like hell to not let that person be the one you pour your heart out to but this goes into the lesson of holding a grudge.
-KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!!!!!!!!! In this world where people are constantly shamed, it’s important to know when criticism is helpful, and when it’s not. Knowing your worth makes all the difference; I learned this this year that I am worthy of whatever my heart desires and if someone isn’t making you feel worthy then drop them.
These aren’t, by any means, all of the things I’ve learned in my entire lifetime, but they are certainly ones that I think everybody should take to heart.
Happy Birthday to my fellow Scorp sisters and misters.
until next time
aka samantha marie♥♥♥